Sunday, January 31, 2010

Sunday Stealing - The Pretentious Blogging Meme


1. How long have you been blogging?
On and off, since 2004.

2. What made you start?
I started to blog so that I could have an on-line journal that I could access both at work and home. It grew on me.

3. Who inspired you?
A few random bloggers inspired me, really. I found them intriguing. Fascinating! No... I don't know, it's hard to say.

4. About how many hours a week would you estimate you spend on your blog?
Maybe one to three, at the least, depending on what's going on in my life. I can't do too much while my little girl is at home, so I try to work on it while she is at school, or at her dad's house on the weekends.

5. What kind of experience or background do you have with writing?
Nothing professional. I started creative-writing at a very early age, before I could spell. I would put together illustrated books, spelling the words phonetically, rather than correctly. (Funny thing is, my little girl does the same, exact thing.) I wrote a play at the age of 11. I wrote some poetry and some songs as a teen. Just random junk.

6. Talk about how you come up with blog topics. Where do you get your ideas?
Well, I used to get ideas while driving my long commute to and from work. But after I was laid off last year, I have had to dig really deep for ideas. Most of my ideas come from something I've read on the Internet; news, or other blogs, perhaps. There are some great resources for writing prompts on the net, also.

7. What or who inspires you and your blog?
Every single blogger inspires me. Lately, some friends and family members have been very encouraging me to keep it up. Even though (since my layoff) I've been dealing with blogger's block.

8. Where and/or how do your brainstorming for your blog?
I don't have my long commute to and from work any longer, most of my brainstorming is at random intervals during the day. I hate to say it, but right now, being out of work, most of my day is spent searching the Internet for a job, with many small breaks to check news, read blogs, and of course Facebook.

9. Do you have any blogging rules or guidelines you follow?
Well, I want to keep the material family-friendly. My daughter knows how to Google my blog, so anything I write, she may end up reading one day. I try not to come off too negative or write about anything that gets way too personal, such as ex-boyfriends or ex-husbands. If I write about people in my life, I won't include names.

10. Is there anything you will not blog about?
Sex. At all. I try not to talk about politics too much, either. That is a no-win topic! And I also won't poison-pen anyone I've had a personal relationship with, although a couple of ex-boyfriends will visit my blog, in search of anything I might say about them. (Dude, I've already told you before I wouldn't blog about you!)

11. Do you have any sort of a publishing schedule in terms of day of week or topic?
I try to post once a day, as a rule of thumb. But sometimes I get nothing. When I go back to working full-time, we'll see what happens. (There's always memes like this one!)

If would like to participate in Sunday Stealing, link up here.

Saturday, January 30, 2010

Six Word Saturday











My baby will be seven tomorrow!



For Six Word Saturday: Describe your life (or something) in a phrase using just six words. For more information, try clicking here. Feel free to explain or not explain. Add an image, a video, a song, nothing.

Thursday, January 28, 2010

Friday Felicities

Welcome to Friday Felicities, inspired by Nattie – now a resident of heaven. Friday Felicities is all about creating a list of things that make you happy with the belief that when you concentrate on your blessings, your sorrows are not as overwhelming. If you would like to participate, please visit Becky's blog here.

My Friday Felicities for today:

  1. A very clean car
  2. Bath & Bodyworks lotions and washes
  3. Daydreaming about visiting Tuscany one day
  4. Dining by candle light
  5. Electric blankets
  6. Fat-free potato chips (Olestra and I get along just fine!)
  7. Fresh bread, straight out of the oven
  8. Freshly washed bed sheets
  9. Homemade hamburgers and tacos
  10. Homemade tortillas
  11. How clear and beautiful the sky looks after the rain clouds are gone
  12. Hugging my daughter as I drop her off & pick her up from school
  13. Ikea (need I say more?)
  14. Kissing my daughter goodnight
  15. Listening to emotionally moving music
  16. Lofthouse frosted cookies
  17. Memory foam mattresses
  18. Orchestra music
  19. Peppermint stick ice cream (bye-bye until next Christmas!)
  20. Petting an animal with ultra-soft fur
  21. Redbox movie rentals
  22. Scented Febreeze vacuum cleaner filters
  23. See's Candies
  24. The big library in downtown L.A. (I miss spending my lunch hours there!)
  25. Watching family home movies of long ago (I like to watch my mom laugh)

Wednesday, January 27, 2010

Tuesday, January 26, 2010

What I Learned This Week


What I Learned This Week:

  • I learned that rats make better pets than hamsters.
  • I learned that rats are smarter than hamsters.
  • I learned that two rats are better than one.
  • I learned that rats are meticulous with their personal hygiene, and that they feel they must give themselves a complete "washing" after being touched by human hands.
  • I learned that rats will almost always poop when taken out of their cage to be played with.
  • I learned that rats will almost always land on their feet, just like a cat does, when accidentally dropped by a child.
  • I learned that my cat is only slightly interested in rats, and therefore would not make a very good mouser. (Good thing he does not live aboard the Mayflower! )

What have you learned this week?

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Monday, January 25, 2010

These are SOMEBODY'S Children...

Children Play in Rubble of Haiti QuakeImage by United Nations Photo via Flickr

I wanted to blog about this last week. But I didn't. I just couldn't seem to bring myself to do it.

It's difficult when you look all around you and you see everything that you've been blessed with; a warm home, clean water to drink, food on the table, clothes and shoes to wear, pets to keep you company, and most importantly, your children at home with you, safe and sound.

Actually, having these blessings is not the difficult part, but when you take a look at the world around you and see the dangerous and harmful conditions that you and your children could be living in - that other people are living in - well, THAT is the hard part.

Haiti has been on my mind so much lately. How could it not be? The reports are all over the place. And last week, I noticed that the reports took a very horrible turn. Human trafficking has been brought to light. Human trafficking of young, orphaned children, forced into slavery for the sex trade. It's nothing new. It's been around for ages. Maybe since the dawn of man.

When I think about these young children, who are somebody's children (they could just as easily be YOURS and MINE) who's lives have been completely turned upside down, it just breaks my heart! They've lost their parents. They are all alone in the world. And now, they have been preyed upon by the lowest lifeforms in the human race who want to capitalize on their misfortune (that's putting it mildly), and not only steal their innocence, but rob them of their basic human rights.... this is unfathomable to me.

I just can't even begin to express how grateful I am that I live in a very different world. MY daughter is safe. I hug her every chance I get. Sometimes I hold her so tight, she complains and wriggles loose from my embrace. I can't help it.

But what about THESE kids? They aren't safe. And there isn't a damn thing we can do about it.

Or IS there?

Please read:


Youth in lawless Haiti at risk for sex trade, slavery, murder
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Saturday, January 23, 2010

Buried in Haiti Rubble, U.S. Dad Wrote Goodbyes to His Boys

“I was in a big accident. Don’t be upset at God. He always provides for his children, even in hard times. I’m still praying that God will get me out, but He may not. But He will always take care of you.”

Read the inspiring story of Haitian earthquake survivor, Dan Wooley.

Dan was buried in the rubble of the once very beautiful Hotel Montana in Port-au-Prince, Haiti, and miraculously found alive in an elevator shaft 65 hours later:

Buried in Haiti rubble, U.S. dad wrote goodbyes - Haiti earthquake

Watch the video interview shot after the amazing rescue:



Friday, January 22, 2010

Friday Felicities

Welcome to Friday Felicities, inspired by Nattie – now a resident of heaven. Friday Felicities is all about creating a list of things that make you happy with the belief that when you concentrate on your blessings, your sorrows are not as overwhelming. If you would like to participate, please visit Becky's blog here.

My Friday Felicities for today:
  1. A beautiful meadow
  2. A bubble bath by candlelight
  3. A really good movie
  4. A sincere compliment
  5. Birthday cake
  6. Chocolate chip cookies, straight out of the oven
  7. Drive-in movies
  8. Finding cool stuff in the dollar spot at Target
  9. Getting to stay at a very nice hotel
  10. Listening to good music at the perfect volume (with no interruptions)
  11. Making fun memories with my little girl
  12. Receiving a beautiful bouquet of flowers (for the right reasons)
  13. Roller coaster rides
  14. Scented candles
  15. Shoe shopping at Ross (I always SCORE there!)
  16. Sitting fireside with someone special
  17. Tide pools with plenty of sea life
  18. Visiting my hometown
  19. Watching the waves roll in at the beach
  20. Wearing a pair of flattering jeans that fit well
  21. When I get to see my mom and spend precious time with her in my dreams

Wednesday, January 20, 2010

Other People's Blogs



I recently discovered that Blogger is now allowing us to follow more than 200 blogs at a time... whoo hoo! I love lots of blog-reading material in my reader; I am a total blog-junkie!

I find new blogs through various sources. The blogs I like the best are a mash-up of serious and humorous personal accounts of people's daily lives. I tend to relate closely to other parents (since I am one myself) and living with children can be quite comical at times... it warms my cockles to read about all the little anecdotes of other people's families.

I LOVE finding honesty on a blog. I love reading something that I believe is genuine. I take some comfort in knowing that other moms face the same struggles as I do. I take heart that the grass isn't always greener, and that other moms have kids that aren't always perfect!

I find it very refreshing that there are other people out there that are asking the same questions that I have, i.e.;

'When can a single or a working parent find time to blog?'

'Is it normal that my six-year old still sucks her thumb and carries a blankie?'

'Am I the only parent left on earth that doesn't home-school their child?'

And even though these days I probably can't totally relate to the wife who's husband needs every last one of his jeans and T-shirts ironed, and who insists on clipping his toenails in bed, or continually barging in on her while she's alone in the bathroom, I can offer my sympathy. (I was married myself once upon a time, long, long ago.)

Still, I have noticed that many blogs are really starting to place a big emphasis on marketing. This is where my attention drifts elsewhere. It is one thing to do a product review every once in a while. Heck, I even purchased a carpet cleaner based on a product review that a fellow blogger wrote on her blog. But when I see a blog that puts more effort into pushing products, than sharing what happened at the dinner table, I tune out. (Hello? Is your life in there somewhere?) There is already sooo much marketing on the Internet, not to mention all of the marketing that we've been enduring on the radio and TV for so many years!

Another thing that turns me off from a blog would be the constant use of four-letter words. This could be my biggest blog pet-peeve. Now, if a single instance of one little rouge naughty word occurred, I'd probably look the other way. I'm NOT a person who has never, ever used a four-letter word. No, no, no, no. In a past life, I had been known to utter them a time or two myself (more than I care to admit). I'm not saying that if you drop the f-bomb on your blog, you should be fined by the FCC. I just probably won't follow any blog that doesn't have family-friendly reading material. Nothing personal. I'm just saying...

What are some qualities or attributes that you like in a blog? Does style matter just as much as content? What influences your decision to follow (or un-follow) a particular blog? Do you have any blog pet-peeves?

(Almost) Wordless Wednesday


A VERY pregnant me, seven years ago (almost to the day) at my baby shower.

Tuesday, January 19, 2010

Ten on Tuesday - 10 Songs You’re Embarrassed to Like


10 Songs I'm Embarrassed to Like:



    1. Black Cat, by Janet Jackson

    2. Disco Inferno, by the Trammps

    3. Don't Stop 'Til You Get Enough, by Michael Jackson

    4. Gonna Make You Sweat, by C+C Factory

    5. Hot Stuff, by Donna Summer

    6. Let it Whip, by Dazz Band

    7. Let's Groove, by Earth Wind & Fire

    8. Stayin' Alive, by the Bee Gees

    9. Superfreak, by Rick James

    10. You dropped a Bomb on Me, by the Gap Band

Friday, January 15, 2010

The POOREST of the Poorest?


Could Haiti actually be the POOREST of the poorest Countries in the Northern Hemisphere? I'm not sure, but if they weren't before Tuesday, they probably are now.

Watching the video below stirred up something inside me. Some powerful emotions. I'm not even sure I can describe them, and I don't feel such overwhelming emotions every day.

I can tell you that I feel helpless right now. I wish I could move mountains to help these people. I wish I could take these sweet, orphaned children into my arms, and never let them go. Every last one of them. What is going to happen to them? No one is certain.

There are many bloggers/people out there who have decided that they aren't going to just simply blog about it - they are going to
DO something about it. People like Jennifer. Leia. Ree. Megan. Kelly. Kristen. Emily. Jenny. And so many more...

Please take a moment to check out what these amazing people are up to!











Scams are a Poppin'

American Red Cross flag‎Image via Wikipedia

I wish we could trust everyone and anyone. I wish it weren't necessary to investigate a charity. I wish that there were no people who would even dream of setting up a fake charity, in order to swindle and con others out of their hard-earned money. I wish there was no such thing as a scam.

But, unfortunately there are, and there are some scams stealing people's money right out from under their noses, on this very day. (Actually, people are willingly giving their money to these schemers, without even realizing what is happening.)

Did you know that even before Hurricane Katrina made landfall, schemers were already setting up phony websites that included the keyword Katrina (such as www.katrinahelp.com and www.katrinarelief.com) in order to collect money and personal information from unsuspecting good-hearted people? And that in the weeks following Hurricane Katrina, the FBI reported that it had identified over 4,000 bogus websites that were attempting to capitalize on the goodwill of generous citizens?

I thought that I might post links to a couple of resources that many of you already know about. Please take a moment to research any charity that you want to donate to:
  1. GuideStar
  2. Charity Navigator
There are indeed some very worthy, legitimate charities that NEED your help right this very moment, and it would be a shame if your hard-earned money went to a phony charity. The American Red Cross is a personal favorite of mine. They are actively sending supplies to Haiti, and keeping us updated. The International Committee of Red Cross is also helping family members/loved ones who have been separated by the earthquake re-connect by setting up this website. There are also many other wonderful charities out there, besides Red Cross. Just do your homework.

If you would like to help survivors of the Haitian earthquake, please take a moment to consider these points, as outlined by Charity Navigator:

  • Avoid newly-formed charities and give to an established charity that has worked in Haiti.
  • Do not give to the Haitian government
  • Designate your investment
  • Do not send supplies
  • Be careful of email solicitations
  • Seek out the charity’s authorized website
  • Is it safe to make a text donation?
  • Consider the nature of the charity’s work
  • Be inspired by social media, but still do your homework
  • Avoid telemarketers
  • Do not expect immediate results, but do keep tabs on what your donation accomplishes

For more info, visit: www.fbi.gov/cyberinvest/escams.htm

Friday Felicities

Welcome to Friday Felicities, inspired by Nattie – now a resident of heaven. Friday Felicities is all about creating a list of things that make you happy with the belief that when you concentrate on your blessings, your sorrows are not as overwhelming. If you would like to participate, please visit Becky's blog here.

My Friday Felicities for today:
  1. A delicious Italian meal
  2. A deserted beach
  3. Babies
  4. Beautiful sunrises/sunsets
  5. Clear, starry nights (that aren't too cold)
  6. Driving completely around the Big Island of Hawaii to see the beauty of it all
  7. Finding fabulous clothes at a thrift store (and knowing that they won't cost me very much!)
  8. Fresh snow, glimmering in the light of a full moon
  9. Friendly people that can see that at first, I am really just shy, and take the initiative to break the ice
  10. Hugs from my daughter
  11. Hummingbirds
  12. Knowing that my car is paid for
  13. Listening to a new CD, and discovering that every track is great
  14. My affectionate cat
  15. Playing with puppies
  16. Road-trips along the Pacific coast
  17. Rollerskating
  18. Spending time with my BFF in California (whom I don't get to see very often)
  19. Taking a trip to the mountains
  20. Taking walks with my daughter
  21. Tiramisù
  22. Weddings
  23. When my house is (finally) neat and clean

Wednesday, January 13, 2010

What are You Missing?


Have you ever watched a colony of ants at work? So driven and focused on their work, they do NOT stop to watch you.

We are a lot like they are, those ants, whether we realize it or not.

I received this via email this afternoon, and it made me think, "What are the little things that we miss, as we hurry about our busy day? What exactly am I missing?"

Washington, DC Metro Station on a cold January morning in 2007. The man with a violin played six Bach pieces for about 45 minutes. During that time approx. 2 thousand people went through the station, most of them on their way to work. After 3 minutes a middle aged man noticed there was a musician playing. He slowed his pace and stopped for a few seconds and then hurried to meet his schedule.

4 minutes later:

The violinist received his first dollar: a woman threw the money in the hat and, without stopping, continued to walk.

6 minutes:

A young man leaned against the wall to listen to him, then looked at his watch and started to walk again.

10 minutes:

A 3-year old boy stopped but his mother tugged him along hurriedly. The kid stopped to look at the violinist again, but the mother pushed hard and the child continued to walk, turning his head all the time. This action was repeated by several other children. Every parent, without exception, forced their children to move on quickly.

45 minutes:

The musician played continuously. Only 6 people stopped and listened for a short while. About 20 gave money but continued to walk at their normal pace. The man collected a total of $32.

1 hour:

He finished playing and silence took over. No one noticed. No one applauded, nor was there any recognition.

No one knew this, but the violinist was Joshua Bell, one of the greatest musicians in the world. He played one of the most intricate pieces ever written, with a violin worth $3.5 million dollars. Two days before Joshua Bell sold out a theater in Boston where the seats averaged $100.

This is a true story. Joshua Bell playing incognito in the metro station was organized by the Washington Post as part of a social experiment about perception, taste and people's priorities. (See video below.)

The questions raised:

*In a common place environment at an inappropriate hour, do we perceive beauty?

*Do we stop to appreciate it?

*Do we recognize talent in an unexpected context?

One possible conclusion reached from this experiment could be this:

If we do not have a moment to stop and listen to one of the best musicians in the world, playing some of the finest music ever written, with one of the most beautiful instruments ever made.

How many other things are we missing?




(What are you missing?)

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Tuesday, January 12, 2010

What I Learned This Week




I learned how to cook bacon in the oven this week... and I will probably NEVER cook bacon on the stove again!

It was SO EASY! I don't know why it never occurred to me to do it this way, except that maybe everyone in my family has always cooked it in a griddle on the stove, and consequently, that's the way I learned to do it.
  1. First, I got a jelly roll pan and lined it with aluminum foil.
  2. Then, I lined the bacon strips horizontally across the pan.
  3. Next, I put the bacon into my COLD oven, and turned the oven on to 400 degrees.
  4. Then, I set the timer for 17 minutes and just walked away.
When I took it out of the oven, it was perfect. So yummy, and best of all, no messy bacon grease splatter on my stove... no muss, no fuss! :-)
(If you are playing along with Things I Learned This Week, please leave your link here, at Julie's blog.)

Priorities?



Anne Jackson brought to light a very disturbing study that paints "conservative activists" in a very bad light. Before you scoff at the findings of the survey, or the survey itself, please take a moment to read her post about it. (You can also find a download link to it on her blog.)

Some of my own thoughts:

Our Lord and Savior commanded us to take care of the sick and poor, did he not?

Instead of debating statistics, or the validity of the survey, let's all work together to raise the bar!

"I have three things I'd like to say today. First, while you were sleeping last night, 30,000 kids died of starvation or diseases related to malnutrition. Second, most of you don't give a shit. What's worse is that you're more upset with the fact that I said shit than the fact that 30,000 kids died last night." -Tony Campolo





Thursday, January 7, 2010

Random Thoughts


Good morning!

Sometimes I awake in the morning with random thoughts streaming through my mind, sort of like that little news ticker you see at Times Square.

This morning, you can see what's on my mind, as I greet the new day:

  • If almonds are considered a super-food, are almond M&M's considered a healthy snack?
  • I wish I could get a Golden Retriever, but what would I do with a dog when I go back to work?
  • I think the school nurse must have my number on speed-dial.
  • I guess the Christmas tree doesn't just doesn't come down all by itself – I'd better get on that.
  • Why does my cat love to eat curling ribbon, plastic candy wrappers and other miscellaneous garbage, but my daughter won't touch hamburgers, French toast or fruit cocktail?
  • I wish I were 30 again.
  • I wonder if 'the Santa question' will come up before next Christmas, and I wonder if I should have a prepared statement for when it does?
  • I wonder what exactly Barak Obama has told his children about Santa?
  • Other parents must think I LIVE in sweats, since that's all I wear when I drop off and pick up my DD at school.
  • Watching the movie Julie & Julia makes me want to cook. Almost.
  • And about Julie & Julia, I can't believe Julie Powell's original blog is still out there in the great blog-o-space.
  • I wonder if the Pioneer Woman has ever read Julie Powell's blog?
  • Is it ever too late to bake Christmas cookies? Really?

Wednesday, January 6, 2010

25 Thought-Provoking Questions for 2010

  1. Are cell phones safe?
  2. Are social networking sites good for our society?
  3. Are we hard-wired to cheat?
  4. Do violent games contribute to violent behaviors in youth?
  5. How closely should we focus on Yemen?
  6. Is global warming exaggerated?
  7. Is Iran's nuclear program peaceful, or does it warrant heavy UN sanctions?
  8. Is obesity truly a disease?
  9. Is using national origin or religion as proxies for suspicion of terrorist affiliation racial profiling?
  10. Should all Americans be entitled to health care?
  11. Should all professional sports mandate universal instant replay?
  12. Should auto manufacturers take a larger responsibly regarding alternative fuels?
  13. Should banks be allowed to charge consumers excessive fees?
  14. Should children be permitted to have a Facebook profile or a blog?
  15. Should churches disclose to congregations how tithes are used?
  16. Should developed and emerging nations be forced to cut emissions?
  17. Should euthanasia or physician-assisted suicide be legal?
  18. Should medical records be accessible on the Internet?
  19. Should premarital counseling be mandatory for couples who want to get married?
  20. Should prescription drugs be advertised directly to consumers?
  21. Should Social Security be privatized?
  22. What should be done about the war in Afghanistan?
  23. What should Obama's priority be in 2010?
  24. Would alternative energy development create jobs and stimulate the economy?
  25. Would the mandatory use of whole-body airport scanners be an invasion of our civil-liberties?

Saturday, January 2, 2010

Depression Hurts


Now that the holidays are over, some people may be hit with the post-holiday blues, or even seasonal affective disorder (SAD) but what many people don't realize is that they could be suffering from depression.
 
SUSAN

Susan, a 40-something, mid-career professional, had been feeling persistently sad for the last year or so. The bout of sadness beginning with the major life event - her company's workforce reduction. 

Susan survived the first three layoffs, but lost her job with the fourth layoff. Her sense of security was completely knocked off course; her life turned upside down. Susan was unmarried, and she wasn't sure if her recent unemployment would cause her to loose her house and everything she'd worked so hard for, not to mention her health benefits (she couldn't afford COBRA). To make matters worse, she had lost most of her retirement in the company's 401k the year before, her job loss came at a time when it was finally showing signs of recovery. Susan was extremely distressed.

At first, Susan's friends and family were sympathetic to her situation. However, they couldn't offer her any viable solutions to her immediate situation, and they didn't really know what to do to help her. She tried fruitlessly to find another job, but to no avail. The job market was flooded with candidates who were younger, and better-skilled and better-credentialed than she was. She felt as if her ship was sunk, and she was helplessly treading water in the ocean, and no one else could seem to pull her to safety. Anxiety would wake her in the middle of the night, followed by feelings of despair, keeping her awake for hours.

Susan became dejected. She lost energy and motivation. She stopped going to the gym. She started putting off taking care of her gardening and cleaning her house that she typically did faithfully, every Saturday. Even little things, like unloading the dishwasher took too much effort. At one time, photography was her life's passion, but now she hadn't picked up her camera for weeks. Sometimes would go all day without taking a shower, or brushing her hair or teeth. The days would blend together, most of the time she didn't know off the top of her head what day it was.

Her friends and family would send Susan an occasional email now and again, asking if she'd had any luck in her job search. At first, she tried to come off upbeat and positive, although she was feeling far from it. After a while though, she just couldn't seem to muster up the emotional energy to reply to these emails; she didn't want to burden her friends with more bad news. She started to avoid initiating any contact with them. And then, she noticed that her friends, and even her family members, dropped off one by one. 

They stopped emailing and calling, leaving her out of group events and social gatherings. She felt abandoned, forgotten, alienated. If she dared to speak her feelings to any of them, they would react defensively, criticize her, then distance themselves from her. Pretty soon, her support network dried up, and she felt shunned and alone, which of course worsened the depression. 

She started to fantasize about quitting life, giving up. She would lay in bed for 12 or more hours at a time, thinking about different ways to escape her life. Some days she would never even get out of bed. She couldn't see the point. She wondered; how difficult would it be to go into the garage one night and just turn on the car, while the neighborhood slept? She wondered if anyone would even bother to check in on her, or if she would even be missed.

PAM

Pam's story was similar to Susan's. Pam even suffered a job loss mid-career at mid-life. However, the major difference in Pam's story was Pam's support network. Pam was very lucky to have friends and loved ones who consistently offered emotional support and encouragement. They called her regularly. They and were diligent in inviting Pam to join their social activities, and made sure that she knew that she was included, without being pushy. They didn't try to 'fix' Pam. They did not tell her to 'snap out of it', make light of her feelings, or tell her how she should feel, but they instead listened carefully to Pam. It's not always about giving advice to someone who is suffering from depression, but sometimes just silently listening is extremely helpful. 

These women have much in common with so many other Americans today. I recently read that major depression affects approximately 15 million American adults, or about 8% of the U.S. population age 18 and older, in a given year. Women experience depression about twice as often as men, and about 12% of women will have clinical depression over their lifetime. It's speculated that by the year 2020, depression will be the 2nd most common health problem in the world.

Depression has many different causes, and there are different types of depression. There are different types of treatment, and people may respond differently to each of them. Many people are suffering from depression don't even fully realize it. Nor are they receiving any kind of treatment for it.

I have battled depression on and off for most of my life. During the times that I suffer from depression, judging by the length of time I feel depressed, I can determine if it is more than just a feeling of being 'down in the dumps', or having a case of 'the blues'. 

I struggle with feelings and changes such as:
  • I have difficulty concentrating, remembering details and making decisions.
  • I develop a disregard for healthy eating habits, turning to food for comfort.
  • I want to sleep the day away.
  • I fight constant fatigue and decreased energy.
  • I struggle with feelings of guilt, worthlessness and helplessness.
  • I struggle with feelings of hopelessness and despair.
  • I am plagued by insomnia.
  • I become prone to irritability.
  • I loose interest in the activities and hobbies that I once found delightful and rewarding.
  • I loose motivation in carrying out tasks, chores such as housework, gardening, etc.
  • I feel burdened by persistent sad or anxious feelings.
When I am struggling with depression, my friends and loved ones can often help me feel better. But I always have such a difficult time communicating my needs to them. I feel ashamed by it, and try to cover it up, but if should happen talk about my depression, I feel that it turns people off. If I could somehow muster up the courage, I would ask them to please:
  • Engage me in conversation, and listen carefully.
  • Invite me out for outings and activities. (Sometimes I may decline, but please don't give up asking me in the future.)
  • Don't disparage feelings that I expresses, but rather offer hope.
  • Offer emotional support, encouragement, understanding, patience.
  • Offer to pray with me.
  • Remind me that with time, the depression will lift.
(If you know someone who is suffering from depression, and want to help, please consider doing the above for them.)

Just like the recent anti-depressant commercial says, "Depression hurts." If you think you might be suffering from depression, you need to talk to your doctor about it as soon as possible. Don't put it off, or try to self-medicate. There are many people who have responded positively to different type of treatment, and it's important to remember that while certain types of treatment may work for one person, something different works for another person. Personally, I have always found counseling with a professional with whom I like and feel comfortable with to be beneficial. The key is persistence in trying to find what works for you. Remember that recovery is a process, and it doesn't happen overnight.

Here are some additional web resources: 

Depression Resources at WebMD
http://depressionresources.webmd.com/
American Psychiatric Association
1000 Wilson Boulevard, Suite 1825
Arlington, VA 22209-3901
Toll-free: (888) 35-PSYCH (357-7924)
Phone: (703) 907-7300
http://www.psych.org/
American Psychological Association
750 First Street, NE
Washington, DC 20002-4242
Toll-free: (800) 374-2721
Phone: (202) 336-5500
http://www.apa.org/
Center for Mental Health Services (CMHS) Knowledge Exchange Network (KEN)
P.O. Box 42490
Washington, DC 20015
Toll-free: (800) 789-2647
http://www.mentalhealth.org/
Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance (DBSA)
730 North Franklin Street, Suite 501
Chicago, IL 60601-7204
Toll-free: (800) 826-3632
http://www.dbsalliance.org/
Depression and Related Affected Disorders Association
Meyer 3-181
600 North Wolfe Street
Baltimore, MD 21287-7381
Phone: (410) 955-4647
http://www.drada.org/
National Alliance for the Mentally Ill
Colonial Place Three
2107 Wilson Boulevard, Suite 300
Arlington, VA 22201-3042
Toll-free: (800) 950-NAMI (950-6264)
Phone: (703) 524-7600
http://www.nami.org/
National Alliance for Research on Schizophrenia and Depression
60 Cutter Mill Road, Suite 404
Great Neck, NY 11021
Toll-free: (800) 829-8289
http://www.narsad.org/
National Foundation for Depressive Illness, Inc.
P.O. Box 2257
New York, NY 10116
Toll-free: (800) 239-1265
http://www.depression.org/
National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH),
Public Inquiries

6001 Executive Boulevard, Suite 8184, MSC 9663
Bethesda, MD 20892-9663
Phone: (301) 443-4513
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/
National Mental Health Association
2001 North Beauregard Street, 12th Floor
Alexandria, VA 22311
Toll-free: (800) 969-NMHA (969-6642)
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/
Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA)
US Department of Health and Human Services
5600 Fishers Lane
Rockville, MD 20857
Phone: (301) 443-8956
http://www.samhsa.gov/

Postpartum depression

Depression After Delivery, Inc. (DAD)
91 East Somerset Street
Raritan, NJ 08869
Toll-free: (800) 944-4PPD (944-4773)
http://www.depressionafterdelivery.com/
Postpartum Support International
Postpartum Resource Center of New York, Inc.
109 Udall Road
West Islip, NY 11795
Phone: (631) 422-2255
http://www.postpartum.net/








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